Sure, I’ve had my share of breakups that were hard to get through. When you go through a divorce a big part of who you were before changes.
No matter how independent you are, to some degree your identity is tied up with being married and being married to her.
Meeting these people first and foremost should give you the best chance possible of a long and happy future together, though you can search out additional profiles using our 'Have you met...' feature too… Intelligent, mature and – very often – divorced singles make use of our service to find long-lasting love.
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These are the people we think are best suited to you – based on your personality match, location, income and education – and therefore merit your consideration.
But there’s often some work to do before you can be ready to date again.
Elite Singles spoke with integrative psychiatrist Hilda Burke on the subject, and her advice is simple: “Letting go of a marriage invariably involves forgiveness” she says, “many people who are going through a divorce may blame themselves for deciding to get married or even for having been in the relationship in the first place.
This is fruitless.” Burke also strongly advocates forgiving your ex-partner too, to “nullify the debt you feel they owe you.” Not dealing with these issues first only ensures you’ll carry excess emotional baggage into your next serious relationship.
But, most importantly, divorced singles just need to keep their chins up; there’s not much in the world more stressful than a divorce, but getting through to the other side will make you stronger in the long run.
Even if you’re the one who wanted out, there’s still going to be a big hole in your brain where your relationship used to live.